Weekend Update – Own It & Lean In

| November 2, 2013 | 10 Comments

So, I guess I needed another week’s break? It hasn’t been an especially busy week, not compared to how I used to live 6 months ago (how I did everything and not crack under the pressure I’ll never know), but I think I’m still adjusting to working full-time, getting all of my school readings and assignments done, and just living a normal life.

I’m not complaining! I love being busy, but I will admit that this whole school thing is sort of stressing me out. It’s not like I’m doing a degree program or anything, but I’ve always been a keener when it comes to school and the thought of getting anything other than an A terrifies me. I don’t know why, because time and time again I’ve proven to myself that I am smart and can excel in school, but I’ve always had this tiny bit of self-doubt when it comes to academics. It could be for a number of reasons, but when it comes to school assignments and tests, I’m always afraid I’m going to do it wrong and getting a failing grade. Not that those fears are completely unfounded. I did almost fail this one university class about Vikings (who gets a D in Vikings? Me, that’s who), and I once had to redo an entire paper because I misunderstood the assignment. But when it comes to my academic successes, I never really give myself credit for them.

Luckily, I started reading Sheryl Sandberg’s “Lean In” this week and it’s definitely been helping me squash those stupid fears. You know when you start reading a book and it almost perfectly aligns with what you’re going through in your life at that moment? Yup. That’s this book for me. I’ll write a full post (or possibly several) when I’m done. Basically my fears of not being good enough and never really accepting or expressing my achievements isn’t that odd. A lot of women feel the same way, but it’s high time we start thinking differently! When I achieve a goal I need to own it, not think that it was just luck that got me there. And when I receive a compliment I need to just say “Thank you” instead of “Well, I had help” or “Really, it was nothing.” I want to own it and lean it, and hopefully one day have as successful a career as Sheryl has. 

Since I’ve been busy with work and school this week, I honestly haven’t had too much time for reading any other blogs, besides Ask a Manager who I’m literally obsessed with. I honestly don’t know how I would have survived the summer without that blog, and if any of you are job hunting or just have a jerk for a boss, you need to read this blog. It’s a gem.

Alright, that’s it for me! Have a great weekend everyone and I will have a new post scheduled for Monday so make sure to check back for that!

-Mo’ Houses out!

(Image: Celestine Chua)

Category: Career, Education, Job Searching & Interviewing

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  1. I hear ya, so much. I am a young female in a male-dominated field whose colleagues are all at least 15 years older me, so I have to learn to be respectful without deference. I also feel a but out of place because I jumped in at mid-level straight out of school rather than worked my way up… so much for getting my toes wet. I enjoyed Lean In so much, and I try to remember that when I feel less than others in the work environment.

    • Totally. I know a lot about working in a male-dominated industry, well, mainly from school where I was the minority. It’s not easy but to me it things like that just make me want to work harder and prove people wrong :)

  2. I REALLY need to read that! I’ve been meaning to and have read a ton of reviews and clips but not the whole thing!

  3. You’ve said it: you are smart and that you can excel in school so there is no need to be setting the bar too high on yourself. It’s good that you continue to challenge yourself but take it easy sometimes.
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    • I thinks it’s important to always challenge myself. I always kind of hate doing it, but when I do it and then accomplish a new goal I always feel good about it and know it helps me grow as a person.

  4. Jordann says:

    I finished reading Lean In a few months ago after it had been on my reading list for MONTHS! It’s a great book, and totally reminded me to focus on my career and challenge myself. Looking forward to Monday’s post!
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  5. Dear Debt says:

    That needs to be next on my list. I can suffer from doubt and not owning all my talents either. I don’t want to get in the way of myself, or not doing things because of fear. Thanks for sharing your experiences and I think you are doing great managing everything.
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